Cannabis and Couples

"Tim is an addicted weed smoker he can’t have it in the house without wanting to smoke morning night and day, he wants to quit however because he feels weed is now controlling every aspect of his life. His wife Josie has a more relaxed relationship with weed, she likes to smoke but is happy to get high one or two weekends a month. After much discussion they both quit together. All goes well to begin but after a three months Josie says to her husband one Friday night ‘ I really fancy a smoke what do you think?’ Before she has finished the sentence Tim is on the phone to their dealer and an hour or so later they are both stoned. For Josie the occaisonal weekend of indulgence is just fine, but for Tim when Monday morning comes along it takes the greatest of effort to throw the remaining bit of draw away. Two weekends later it’s the same scenario but this time come Monday, Tim doesn’t throw away, he continues smoking, weekday evenings to begin with and then before they both know it he’s back smoking every morning. They try for abstinence again but again Josie weakens first, even though she is a recreational smoker she is making abstinence impossible for Tim

What is the solution?

Realising that he is powerless if dope is in his possession Tim puts the responsibility of scoring on to Josie. He makes it clear both to Josie and the person he buys from that Josie is now the person who will be calling and picking up. It is Josie’s responsibility to buy the cannabis, roll her own joints, smoke when she wishes to and hide the weed from Tim or throw it away when she has had enough. It’s Tim’s responsibility to either choose to smoke with Josie or not. Not a perfect solution but this way is fairer on both of them."